STOPPING THE ANGER REACTION

When a person’s speech is full of anger, it is because he or she
suffers deeply. Because he has so much suffering, he becomes
full of bitterness. He is always ready to complain and blame
others for his problems. This is why you find it very unpleasant
to listen to him and try to avoid him.
To understand and transform anger, we must learn the
practice of compassionate listening and using loving speech.

TNH





I hate getting Angry. (get it) It's something that somebody told me recently that kind of sent me for a loop. I think of myself as quite a calm person and a pretty good listener most of the times. This friend said that she thought that I was very angry at the world.


I disagreed at the time. But maybe it is a little about CONTROL. I can't conceive of some of the actions of others and am often shocked at the ego and self absorption that I am witnessing daily.


On the other hand, I maybe seeing exactly what I need to see. I need to take a closer look at the way I see people and judge them.


I certainly feel alot of empathy for my fellow humans, but does that happen only on my own terms, when I can control my actions.

Deep stuff, but I want to be more available to figuring this out.



DISPELLING ANGER

To some degree, everyone is vulnerable to idol worship, whether through the pursuit of fame or the veneration of wealth and power. We revere images, especially the self-image we feel we must project to others.

The most blatant form of idolatry, is ANGER. Something external is controlling our emotions and reactions.

When a computer crashes, losing our important files, and we erupt in anger, we have just bowed down before the silicon idol. When a car cuts us off on the freeway and we curse with rage, we are idolizing the metallic god. When we lose our temper with our spouse or children and cause them undue pain, we are worshipping the idol of darkness.

When we devote ourselves to idols, allowing external situations or other people to instigate anger and rage within us, we sever our connection to the LIGHT. This is a big mistake, since the LIGHT is the true source for the fulfillment of our deepest desires.

Yehuda Berg



I cannot control the actions of other people and it just puts a hole in the pit of my stomach to react with anger in any situation. Recognizing that a change is needed is a step in the right direction.

RL