LOVE THE WAY YOU LIE LIVE

CONVERSATION HEARD ON THE PATIO OF GRAPEFRUIT MOON: AS FAR AS MY MEMORY CAN GO


Young woman: I loved him. I loved him hard. He was spectacular.

2nd woman: He looked fine, that's for sure.

Young woman: He was more than fine, he was the whole package.

2nd woman: OK.

Young woman: Sensitive, man going to bed with him was a surreal adventure.

2nd Woman: Well don't take this the wrong way but...

Young Woman: What?

2nd Woman: I think you were just looking for him to plug a hole in your sinking ship.

Young Woman: Excuse me?

2nd Woman: Your past issues, I don't want to talk about them here. Your food thing as

well.

Young Woman: Yeah, yeah. So I love food and I love myself, he was hot.

2nd Woman: He was a Versace Train Wreck waiting to happen. At his best, transitional.

Young Woman: Hey, I am adaptable, i can endure. Hey I just said "Baby, I love the
way you lie, now lie down motherfucker"

2nd Woman: That was your motherfuckin problem girl.


Find a motivated, self-honest, romantic that understands you are a hurt child underneath.



Don Miguel Ruiz talks about the pain that we suffered as a child and how we get domesticated by adults so we can "fit in" and be a "productive member of society"

Necessary? Maybe. Brutal though.

We then start to manufacture projections that we put out into the world in order to be accepted.

When we are teenager, these projections get challenged constantly by our peers who see through them. It's painful.

So there is a constant process of changing the projection to fit in......This goes on forever. So when you get into a relationship...You put forward your best projection as well as your partner puts forward theirs.

You fall for a projection and then start getting upset when that image does not live up to itself under closer scrutiny. So, you try to change it, to suit your needs. Disaster and letdown.

It's all very complicated but you can understand the basic idea that people get married and after 7 days they realize that the real person that they married is nothing like the person they fell in love with.

It's at this point that the relationship often turns bitter and angry.

I think the answer is that you have to accept yourself, forgive yourself, honour your core and let people deal with the real you. They may be underwhelmed but move on.

You put yourself out there and risk rejection a little bit more, but hey, living in the alternative is more brutal.


This idea that Cameron Crowe tapped into that...."you complete me" is a bunch of hogwash.

We do need a little bit of fun on the ride though. We need a little bit of edge. Such as....."you may be the worst chef of all time and are a hoarder, however....you are funny and give great oral sex"

Hopefully you are not full of humour as you are negotiating oral communications.
Just thinking.